Does something feel off?

You're not imagining it.

Let's name it.

Then close the case.

LET THE INVESTIGATION BEGIN

"Once you crack the code,

you become the detective of your own life"

About Me

Certified Trauma-Informed Narcissistic Abuse & Relationship Coach, Author, and Creator of The Sherlock Principle™

I'm Howard Dee.

If something feels off in your relationship - you're not imagining it. I help people expose what's really happening, break the psychological spell, and reclaim clarity, confidence, and direction.

Music saved my life when words failed me. Now I use both music and methodology to help others reclaim their voice.

But my work didn't begin with certifications.

It began in childhood - growing up in a family where dysfunction was normalised. Hostility, rivalry, humiliation, gaslighting, and at times violence existed behind closed doors.

Everything appeared fine on the outside.

At ten years old, I taught myself piano and guitar. Music became the only place where the chaos made sense.

Still, one question followed me for decades:

Why would the people meant to love you be the same ones breaking you down?

That question led me deep into psychology, attachment theory, and narcissistic abuse patterns. Over time, what once felt confusing became predictable. I learned to spot manipulation as it unfolded - often several steps ahead.

Then one day, I overheard my father call me "Sherlock." A quiet admission that I'd figured him out.

That moment became The Sherlock Principle™ - a three-phase system designed to help people expose hidden manipulation, break the psychological spell, and understand toxic behaviour with calm, grounded clarity.

Once I cracked the code, I didn't just solve my father's case.

I became the detective of my own life.

Now, I help you do the same.

Because the patterns will always repeat - until you learn how to spot the clues.

Let the investigation begin.